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This Pretty Girl Was Seeking A Rich Husband. The Reply She Got From A Banker Was Priceless!

The following is what a women posted on a dating forum seeking a rich husband:

Posted on 3/27/2014 by Eliyokim Cohen

I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.

My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you?

Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.

If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.

I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:

1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)

A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan below:
Dear Ms. Pretty,

I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.
My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.

From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.

Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.

However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”.

If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.

Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps.


Is it possible to boil down the keys to a successful marriage into some basic rules of thumb? Unfortunately, marriage isn’t quite that simple, but there are some do’s and don’t that are universally good ideas when it comes to living in love for a lifetime. Here are some off the top of my head. What are some of your do’s and don’ts?


1. Pray
St. Paul reminds us that husbands and wives are to, “defer to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Everything a couple does must be about helping each other become the people God created them to be in this life and helping each other get ready for the next life. Pray together every day. When you have a disagreement, discuss it, then submit both of your wills to God’s will in prayer. Then get more information, discuss, pray, and repeat until you achieve a successful resolution to the problem. In the end, it doesn’t matter what you or your spouse wants, the only thing that matters is that you and your spouse are committed to helping each other more clearly discern what God wants.

2. Prioritize your marriage.
You are the most important influence in your spouse’s life second only to his or her free will and the saving power of Jesus Christ. As I mentioned above, your job is to help each other become who God wants you to be and to get to heaven. There is no other work more important, and no other relationship that can compete. You did not promise at the altar to place your mom, your dad, your, boss, your neighbor, or your Great Aunt Brunhilda first in your life, but you did promise God to place your spouse first. You must be prepared to give your mate not only symbolic first place “in your heart,” but also first place in your schedule, your allotment energy, and your commitment of time. If you are not doing this, then your life is disordered, your priorities are flawed, and your marriage will pay the price. Guaranteed. The promise to “forsake all others” does not merely apply to sexual partners, it applies to every relationship that seeks to compete with the primacy of the marriage.

3. It’s About the Little Things.
Married couples don’t just say, “I do” to each other on their wedding day. In fact, every day, husbands and wives have a million opportunities to say, “I do” or “I don’t” to each other and their marriage. It really is the little things that make all the difference over time. When you do thoughtful things without being asked, keep promises, respond positively to requests (especially requests that pull you out of your comfort zone), you say, “I do.” When you neglect each other (even benignly), “forget” to do things you said you would, or respond grudgingly (or not at all) to requests you say, “I don’t.” The best way to keep a marriage growing strong is being careful to make sure your “I do” pile far exceeds the “I don’ts.” In fact, some research suggests that it can take up to 5 “I do’s” to make up for one “I don’t” because we tend to give more weight to negative experiences. Throughout the day, ask yourself, “What’s one small thing I can do to make my spouse’s life easier or more pleasant right now.”

4. Take time to talk.
Husbands and wives must have at least 30 minutes a day where they can talk openly, not just about what went on today and what they have to do tomorrow, but also about what is on their hearts, where their lives together are going, and what specific support they need from—or are trying to give to—each other in order to fulfill the prime directive of marriage; helping each other become who God created them to be and get ready for heaven. (Now, where did I hear that before?)

5. Learn new skills.
If you needed surgery, would you pick the doctor who hadn’t picked up a medical journal or been to a continuing education class in twenty years, or would you prefer the doctor who has kept current with the latest techniques and treatments? Of course you would pick the doctor who has kept current.

But is the work of marriage any less important or challenging than the work of a doctor? (I’ve counseled many a doctor who said that marriage was harder.) Regularly read books on Christian marriage together and discuss what does and does not apply to you (and why). Take a marriage encounter weekend. Once a year, go on a mini retreat together where you spend a day or a weekend thanking God for the blessings of the past year and asking for guidance in the next. Stay current with the skills necessary for caring for each other’s heart and soul. You’ll be glad you did


1. Don’t Pick on each other.
Avoid all forms of name calling and unnecessary criticism. These things wear out your welcome in a person’s life. When you must complain about something, make sure you do it in a charitable manner. Learn how to express your concerns in love. For specific tips on how to do this, check out my book, For Better…FOREVER! A Catholic Guide to Lifelong Marriage.

2. Don’t Have Emotional Affairs.
Do you share information with someone before you tell your spouse? When something good or bad happens to you, do you think of sharing that with someone other than your spouse? Is there someone in your life that you feel understands you better than your mate. You may be committing emotional infidelity, and if this certain someone is of the opposite sex, then the problem is twice as bad.

If your mate isn’t your best friend, then recognize it for what it is; a marital problem. Then get professional help to fix the problem. Seeking a confidante in someone else, especially someone of the opposite sex, is asking for trouble.

3. Don’t Marry a Script.
Too many couples don’t marry each other. They marry a script. Instead of taking the time to learn how to meet the needs of the unique person God gave us, we tell ourselves that we are being a good spouse if we do all the things our friends do for their spouse, or all the things that our mom did for our dad, or vice-versa. It doesn’t matter if our mate is miserable in the marriage. As long as we are following our script, we are doing our job. When our spouse complains, we shrug and say, “I’m doing everything right. It must be your problem.”

A good spouse learns the heart of the person to whom he or she is married and generously works to respond to those unique needs, even when doing so means leaving behind his or her comfort zone. Assuming that our mate doesn’t ask us to do something that is morally offensive or personally demeaning, we are obliged to meet the request, generously and cheerfully. If you don’t, then contrary to what you might wish to think, you are a lousy spouse. Start doing better today or suffer the consequences tomorrow.

4. Don’t play marital chicken.
Spouses love to play a game I call “marital chicken.” Like the game played in the 1950’s where reckless teens drove toward each other at high speeds, waiting for the “chicken” to veer out of the way, couples bluff each other in their own high stakes game when they say, “I would be more communicative/romantic/sexual/ playful/responsible/etc. if you would be more communicative/romantic/sexual/playful/ responsible/etc. But I know you, you’ll never change.”

When we play this game, we get to avoid doing our job while getting to feel self-righteous at the same time, but we’re just fooling ourselves. When we die and go to heaven (hopefully) and God says, “Why weren’t you the generous person I needed you to be to your spouse?” Do you really think it’s going to cut the mustard to say, “Well, Lord, I would have been generous, if only my spouse…”

These simple do’s and don’ts might not be all it takes to have a great marriage, but if you follow them, I can guarantee that you’ll have one of the best marriages on the block. You’ll be well on your way to living a marriage that will make the angels smile and the neighbors sick with jealousy.

by Dr. Greg
April 25, 2013

5 Tips for keeping your new relationship strong

Boost your bond
Once you’re past the dating stage and rooted firmly in relationship territory, it’s time to implement some strategies for keeping your new twosome on track. To help you and your guy make a smooth transition from hooking up to shacking up, we’ve put together a few of our best tips aimed at making sure your new love lasts.

1. Keep things interesting
No one wants to fall into a dreaded relationship rut, and although you don’t have to worry about that happening in the beginning stages, it’s still a good idea to do what you can to ensure you steer clear of monotony (like getting takeout from the same place every Friday night). The best way to avoid a rut is to keep things as interesting as possible and consistently try new things together. Routines aren’t all bad, but it’s when you find yourself doing the same things week in and week out that you run the risk of relationship boredom.

  • Try new places to eat and go for coffee.
  • Try at least one new date idea every month (something that neither of you has done).
  • Make meals you’ve never tried.
  • Take day trips to towns or cities you’ve never been to

2. Give each other space
When you’re first in a relationship, all you want to do is spend every waking minute together (often in bed), but despite your new love, it’s also important to have interests outside of each other. The time you spend apart allows you to reflect on what’s happening and gives you time to fully process your feelings. Spending too much time together doesn’t give you any time to miss each other and can eventually be a drain on the relationship. Carve out some solo time by hitting the gym, going for a long walk or jog, seeing your own friends and doing the activities you love that your guy may not be into.

3. Be open to discussion
Communication and being willing to discuss anything that comes in the relationship is key to making a new relationship work. If you don’t talk about what’s bothering you, it won’t go away – it will just get bigger and more frustrating. Whether it’s sex, family, finances or just his inability to let you finish a sentence, if it bothers you or you feel it’s hindering the relationship, you need to be able to discuss it openly and honestly.

4. Be generous
Generosity is usually something that comes easily in the first blush of love – he’s taking you out, buying you flowers, calling all the time and you’re making him dinner, stocking your fridge with his favorite foods and agreeing to watch more baseball games than you’d like. But somewhere down the line, the generosity seems to wane. Keep your new love strong and vibrant by continuing to be generous. You don’t need to spend a fortune, though. Generosity can be as simple as rubbing his back after a hard day, knowing when he needs a sounding board or spending the day doing something he wants to do because you know he needs a boost.
5. Fight fair
It’s inevitable that if you’re in a relationship, you’re going to fight, but if you want yours to last, you’re going to have to fight fair. This means listening to each other, being open to discussing even the more uncomfortable or frustrating topics and being flexible when things don’t go your way. If you can’t resolve your arguments in the early stages of a relationship, you aren’t going to have much luck doing it as time goes on. Fight fair now so you can learn from each other and figure out the best ways to compromise when disagreements arise.

-by Jessica Padykula
Oct 04, 2011

Your Mother-in-Law: 4 Easy Ways to Win Her Over

When you marry him, you get his whole family. And his mother can be a wonderful part of your life or … one of the most challenging. Here’s how to get started on the right foot:

1. Remember, she knew him first: One of the biggest things you can bring to your relationship with your mother-in-law is perspective. There’s no getting around the fact that she knew him first, and whether they are close, or not, there is a deep bond between mother and son. She changed his diapers, tucked him into bed at night, red him bedtime stories and dried his tears. Relationship experts remind us that respecting and honoring your mother-in-law’s past with your fiance goes a long way for your future, and your relationship with her. And in most cases, she’s not going to want to have that same type of control over her son (after all, you’re the one who, ahem, tucks him into bed now), but she also wants to be recognized as an important part of his past, and respected for it. Remember that next time she insists that your guy takes his Thai food order with two stars instead of four. Some battles aren’t meant to be won, and letting her show you how well she knows the man you love, and respecting her for it, is key.
2. Include her in the wedding plans, and in life: Perhaps one of the most powerful things to win your future mother-in-law’s respect is simply to include her in your life, and his. For example, if she lives nearby, why not ask her to come along to sample wedding cakes? Or if it’s the wedding dress she seems to be most interested, invite her to join you at your next fitting. She’ll be touched, and you’ll score points for the future. A win-win.
3. Forge a friendship beyond her son: Does she like to cook? Sign up for a cooking class with her. Does she knit? Ask her to teach you. No, you don’t need to be her BFF (you already have one, and your own mother too), but building a friendship with her outside of your shared connection—her son—will ensure a less bumpy road in the future.
4. Pick up the phone. Unless your fiance is a mutant alien life form, chances are he doesn’t call his mom as much as she’d like. Guys just don’t. And here’s where you come in: Pick up the phone. Whether you call her yourself, or encourage your guy to, she’ll love you for keeping lines of communication open. In fact, most mother-in-laws will admit that their biggest fear is being cut out of their sons’ lives after the wedding. Assuage her fears by showing her, early on, that you’re a communicator and that you, and her son, still need her—and her famous recipe for pumpkin pie.
—Sarah Jio
November 26, 2013